Princess Charlotte



Isn't she a gorgeous baby?!



Kate and William welcomed their beautiful princess into the world the other day. Unless you have been living under a rock, you know this. I'll admit I love keeping up with the royal family. I think it's because we haven't had anyone in the family to love since Diana. Kate is my generation's Diana and it's just fun to keep up with them. And let's face it, she's a lot more classy of a celeb to follow than those dang Kardashians. (I could dedicate a whole other blog on how much I can't stand them.) I love to check out what Kate's wearing and would give my eye teeth to have her maternity wardrobe!


What I don't understand is all the backlash Kate's getting from people on social media. Before I go any further let me preface the rest of this post with this: Yes, I know I am going to sound like a hypocrite for posting anything about not judging celebrities. There's nothing I enjoy more than talking about how certain celebs are ruining the world, or how stupid I think they are. Hence my comment above about the Kardashians. So, no need to call me out on it. I've already recognized this. With that being said, I don't understand why people are saying so many negative things about Kate.



I love how happy they look in this picture. And, you'll notice that's a loose dress. I'm guessing because she didn't want anything close to her crotch! 


First off, people are going on and on about how did she make herself look so great. Then they make comments like "must be nice to have a hair and makeup team to fix you up," and so on and so on. Come on people, did you expect her to come out in a ponytail, yoga pants and no makeup? If she did, then you'd all be saying "I can't believe the wife and mother of the future King(s) of England couldn't put a little effort into her appearance." Kate is not a "regular" celebrity. She's royalty. There are certain expectations of her she has to meet. I mean for crying out loud, the Queen has a list of things you can and can't do in her presence. For instance, did you know you never say "loo" or "bathroom" in front of her? You have to ask for a "comfort break." So did you ever think that maybe Kate doesn't get a choice in how she appears after the princess was born. Also, Kate is not a big person. She has a body we'd all calorie count and work out for hours for and probably never achieve. (God gave her great genes.) So, that makes it a lot easier to look good post-baby. She never looked fat even 9 months pregnant! She did have natural childbirth, so she's also not going to have that groggy look and can walk a lot easier since the lower half of her body was never numbed.


Everyone's talking about how bad they felt after they gave birth. Um, nowhere that I've seen said that Kate felt amazing. Y'all know she's got on a major maxi pad on under that dress and is probably thinking  "as soon as this is over I can get home and put on my royal Lulu Lemon yoga pants and lie down." Again, she has certain expectations to meet. Someone expected to take a "comfort break" isn't going to come out and say, "Natural childbirth is a bitch! My vagina feels like it was ripped open!" Just saying...


Everyone is in shock about how she went home the same day. Hello!!! If you could have the same round-the-clock care you get in the hospital from the comfort of your own home, wouldn't you take it? I would! My own bed? Yes, please!


That's just my take on things. I also don't remember anything like this being said when she had George. 

You can see that bump! Good for her!

I'd just like to end on this: What is wrong with caring about your appearance? In a few months, I will be giving birth. I won't have the luxuries that Kate had. However, I plan on fixing my hair and makeup before I have visitors and before going home. Borrowing that there are no major complications and I don't feel like utter crap. Now, I don't want to hear anyone say "just you wait, once you've done it you'll think differently." Blah, blah, blah. Like I said, borrowing no major complications. I KNOW myself better than anyone. I'm the girl who likes to be fixed up. It's just who I am. You might be the girl who doesn't. Or maybe it's not always a major priority. That's ok. That's the girl you are. I don't judge you for it. So don't judge me, or Kate.

Woah, baby!

In case you haven't heard, the Wilsons will be a family of three this summer. We are expecting a bouncing baby boy August 4th. Obviously, we are beyond thrilled. We absolutely cannot wait to meet him. I won't give you all the nitty gritty details (I've decided if I don't want to hear all that from other people. why would they want to hear it from me?) But we found out the week before Thanksgiving and told our families at Christmas. This is the first grandchild on both sides, so needless to say the grandparents are ecstatic.




People always ask me how I'm feeling. I'm the kind of person where you shouldn't ask how I am unless you really want to know. The first trimester was rough. I never really got sick, but I felt nauseated all. day. long. What is this morning sickness they speak of? It doesn't go away at noon!
However, second trimester I feel really good. A lot more energy, don't feel sick anymore and aside from heartburn (shout out to my friend Carey who shared with me the best heartburn remedy ever: apple juice mixed with 2 tbsp. of apple cider vinegar. Cures it instantly!) I feel good.




The only thing that I don't think ever goes away throughout pregnancy is irritability. It is amazing what people will say to you pregnant. Here is a sampling of things you should NEVER say to a pregnant woman:


- "Wow! You've gotten so big."
Yes, I know this. I am reminded of this every time I get in the shower and see myself naked. I am reminded of this every time I put on my underwear and realize it does not fit right anymore and I need to succumb to maternity undies. I am reminded of this every time I put on my jeans, albeit they're maternity, and huff and puff to pull them on.




- "You don't even look pregnant!"
Seriously?! I mean, I realize it's supposed to be a compliment but are you saying I always look like this?!




- "I was never sick during my pregnancy."
Good for you. Everyone handles pregnancy differently. But as someone who just told you how nauseated they are/were, why the hell would you tell me that? That does not make me feel better. That makes me want to kick you in the shins.




- "I only gained _____ pounds during my pregnancy."
Again, good for you. Same goes as for not being sick during pregnancy. I don't want to hear that. Why would you tell me that? That makes me feel worse than the never feeling sick comment. Except this one makes me want to punch you in the face.




- "You should/shouldn't do this or that."
This advice has been anything from why I shouldn't eat fish or lunchmeat to why I shouldn't have caffeine to why I should/shouldn't breastfeed and so on. I'm sure you're just trying to be helpful, but guess what? Having a kid does not make you Dr. Spock. I do not want your unsolicited advice. I have a doctor, thank you. I will stick with that she tells me to do. I also find the unsolicited advice really funny, especially from strangers. For some reason it is socially acceptable to go up to a pregnant person and start telling them what you think they need to do. Yet, no one would do this if you weren't pregnant. If I walked up to an overweight person that I don't know and started telling them all about what work out and diet they should have they would not only find me incredibly rude, they'd think I was nuts! Why is it all social graces go out the window for pregnant ladies?




-"Are you going to breastfeed?"
Why, are you hungry? I'm sorry but my breasts are none of your business.




"Were you trying?"
As if the boob question isn't personal enough, let's ask about my sex life! What if I went up to someone not pregnant and said "Do you use condoms or the pill or do you just pull and pray?" Not ok for the non-pregnant, not ok for the pregnant.




And the last thing that you should NEVER do to a pregnant woman...
DO NOT TOUCH HER BELLY!
I mean really, you would never do that to a non-pregnant person so again not ok for anyone. So weird, so intrusive, so rude.

I will say, that all of this can be chalked up to pregnant lady irritability. BUT, I do find it so weird that people think that all social norms and barriers are null and void when it comes to us preggos. I will also say that this doesn't apply to my girlfriends and close (female) family members. But to the strangers and any men out there follow this rule: If you didn't put it in there, it is not yours to touch, comment on or ask about.


On a positive note, here is what my fellow blogger Leslie had to say on what you SHOULD say to pregnant women.